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When do you make your move?

From the Portfolio Optimisation Model in Dating Models. Twelve questions that read two things at once: where on the curve you actually act — first date, the peak, the slow burn, or the box marked friends — and how many people you ought to be seeing while you find out.

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IThe date has gone well and you're at the point where it ends. What happens?
IIHow do you know when someone wants you to make a move?
IIIThree hours in and neither of you wants to leave. What do you suggest?
IVWhich would bother you more afterwards — missing the moment, or misreading it?
VSomeone you like says he/she wants to take things slowly.
VIHow many dates before you'd expect to have kissed?
VIIA promising date on Tuesday. Someone else asks you out for Thursday.
VIIISeeing three different people in the same week feels how?
IXA date goes badly. When is the next one?
XHow much do you mind being one of several people someone else is seeing?
XIYour free evenings in a normal week.
XIIBeing turned down by someone you'd met twice.

Six questions read your timing. Six read how many people you can carry at once.

IThe first dateYou move on the first night, before the curve has finished climbing. You collect early rather than waiting to see whether it holds — and you give up information to do it.
IIThe second or third dateYou act at the top of the curve. Long enough to know something, early enough that nothing has settled. The least dramatic answer, which is usually the sign of a correct one.
IIIThe slow burnSeveral dates first, and you accept the cost. You rarely misread anyone, because you've waited until there's nothing left to misread.
IVPast the peakYou wait, and then wait longer, and the chart has a name for where that ends. The curve doesn't stay flat while you decide.

The curve climbs, peaks early, and turns over. The only question is where on it you move.

1One at a timeFull attention on one person, and the whole position lost if he/she isn't interested. Undiversified, but properly present.
2Two at a timeThe smallest amount of diversification that actually does anything. One no doesn't end your month.
3Three at a timeWhere diversification starts working without becoming admin. You can still remember what each of them said.
4Four at a timeIdiosyncratic risk essentially gone. Watch that it doesn't become a reason never to concentrate.
5Five at a timeNo single person can affect you now. What's left is market risk, and volume doesn't fix that.

Diversification removes the risk that one particular person is not interested. It does nothing about being in the wrong market.

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